I have been very lazy with my blogs this year, only writing when the subject matter and moment really spoke to me. Truly this is an approach I have found myself adopting generally in life this year. If so moved respond do not react, and so I did or now do. There is so much to read anyway, from emails to chosen books, magazines, facebook if you are part of that wave of social media! If studying, your required reading is probably more than enough to get your head around. Then there are websites galore most of whom seem to feature blogs and many send newsletters as well. So from all of this ‘stuff’ is it any wonder most of us are saying ‘where on earth does the time go?’ There simply is not enough time to read everything. Admittedly all of that is my ‘stuff’, but some of you may resonate? It is however, why my blogs have been thin on the ground this year.
So by way of offering you my final blog of the year, and not wanting to add to your burdens, I rather liked the latest newsletter from Wayne Dyer. Wayne has been one of many inspired teachers for me over the years, and so continuing with my theme of laziness I choose to share this with you here. My sentiments are very much his around this time of year, when it so easy for us all to loose our cool, leap out of our centre and give away our precious energy.
So I begin with his quote….
“I am at peace with everyone.” Wayne Dyer
No one is capable of making you upset without your consent, so if you begin practicing the intention to be authentic and peaceful with everyone, you connect to peace itselfundefinedand gain the power to change the energy of your relationships with family and friends.
Many years ago, when the holiday season arrived and certain relatives were due to make their annual appearance, I felt a sense of increasing dread. Far too many of us suffer from the pain of family get-togethers, but it doesn't have to be that way. Somehow we allow the expectations and demands of our family members to be the source of so much unhappiness and stress, when what we really want is to be authentically ourselves and at peace with our relatives. The conflict seems too often to be a choice between being authentic, which means no peace with certain relatives, or having peace at the price of being inauthentic. Being peaceful and authentic can define your relationship with your relatives. First, though, you may have to assess your relationship with the closest relative of all - you.
In order to change the nature of family relationships, you'll have to change your mind about them and consider that you are the source of the anguish in your relationships, rather than the individual whom you've pegged as the most outrageous, the most despicable, or the most infuriating. Over the years, all of these individuals have been treating you exactly as you've allowed them to with your reactions and behaviours. This can miraculously change when you choose to be at peace with everyone in your life most particularly, your relatives.
If the focus of your inner dialogue about your family members is on what they're doing that's wrong, then that's precisely how your relationship with them will be experienced. If your inner speech centres on what's annoying about them, that's what you'll notice. But if you're thinking, I am authentic and peaceful with this relative, then that's what you'll experience, even if that relative continues to be exactly the way he or she has always been.
The key to having peace in all your family relationships is forgiveness. Your relatives are simply doing what they've been taught to do over a lifetime, and the lifetimes of many of their ancestors. Shower them with understanding and forgiveness from your heart. Rather than being in a state of non-peace concerning any family members, say a prayer of gratitude for their presence in your life and all that they have come to teach you.
The likelihood is great that you'll see dramatic changes in your relatives as you teach them with your own persona how you intend to be treated. But if they don't change, and if they continue their nonpeaceful ways, let go of your need to see them transformed. It all works in Divine order, and the saying Let go and Let God guarantees your own peace, and you dramatically increase the odds of helping others to do the same.
Love today and always,
Well I do hope you enjoyed that and I am excused my new found laziness. I send Bountiful Blessings to you all this Season of Celebration and wish it to be all you know it can be.
Thank you for being a part of the InspirationPlus community and I wish for you all a peaceful, joyful and fun filled transition into 2014.
Always In Love